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DEAR ABBY: I live five hours away from my hometown. My mom is 98 and in assisted living there. In recent years, my younger sister has become cruel to our mom and is trying to take advantage of her.

Instead of helping Mom, she does things to deliberately upset her and raise her blood pressure. Two examples: putting dog poop on my recently ...Read more

DEAR HARRIETTE: I am a college student. I am abroad for the summer, and I've made up my mind that I'd like to have a fling while in Europe. I haven't quite mapped out whether I'd rather it be a one-time thing or something ongoing while I'm here, but I do know I'd like to make the most of my experience away. The issue is that I am technically in ...Read more

DEAR MISS MANNERS: I live in a place where many cultures and nationalities abound. When I was at a restaurant with friends the other day, we were served by a comely waitress.

My friend commented on the beauty of the "Asian waitress," but I thought she was Latina.

Is there a tactful and proper way to ask? Or are we better off not asking such a ...Read more

Dear Annie: I recently hosted a small dinner party at my home for a few close friends -- just six of us, gathered around the table for what I hoped would be a relaxing evening of good food and conversation. I spent the day preparing a nice meal, setting the table with care and making sure everything felt warm and welcoming. But one guest, my ...Read more

DEAR ABBY: I am worried about my 21-year-old son, "Travis." He hasn't quite left our home that he shares with me and my husband, but he sleeps here only one or two nights. He's in school part time and works part time, which means working or studying long hours until morning.

What concerns me is where he's staying. He refuses to reveal his ...Read more

Dear America: The Fourth of July was hard this year. The flags still waved, the fireworks still cracked across the sky, but it's an empty celebration when Congress voted for millions to lose health care, when people cheer for humans to be eaten by alligators, and where masked people disappear people off the street, the work site, while gardening...Read more

Dear Annie: My daughter recently got engaged, and while I want to be happy for her, I have serious concerns about her fiance. He's moody and dismissive, and I've seen him speak to her in ways that feel demeaning. She brushes it off and says I'm being overly sensitive. I don't want to ruin our relationship, but I'm struggling to stay silent ...Read more

DEAR ABBY: I recently received a voicemail from my brother that recorded a conversation he was having with his wife. It was clear he didn't know he had accidentally dialed my phone during this conversation. It was an argument, which lasted two minutes before there was a pause in the conversation and he hung up.

I haven't addressed it with him ...Read more

DEAR HARRIETTE: I have a friend who is a wine connoisseur. She knows a lot about it and spends a lot of money on it. I don't have that kind of money, but I do enjoy wine and like to serve it when guests visit. I find my friend to be obnoxious about her wine tastes. I see her turn up her nose when she sees my selections. She has taken to bringing...Read more

DEAR MISS MANNERS: I am wondering if it would be crass or in poor taste to give a new widow a thoughtful sympathy card with money in it, rather than sending flowers.

A dear friend just became widowed in her late 40s after her husband's somewhat lengthy and most unexpected illness.

My friend has been a stay-at-home mom throughout her marriage, ...Read more

Dear Annie: I feel like I'm in a toxic relationship with my roommate. We're both older and used to be good friends until we got a place together. I quickly realized she has somewhat of a hoarding issue and a habit of starting projects she never finishes.

I work two jobs and am gone from 6 a.m. to 6 p.m. or later. Meanwhile, she collects ...Read more

DEAR ABBY: In a few days, the second anniversary of my husband's death will be here. We were together for 40 years. They weren't easy years; he had many issues, both physical and mental. I was isolated because I didn't want others to know the extent of what I lived with every day. I cared deeply for him, and as his wife, it was for better or ...Read more

DEAR HARRIETTE: I was recently offered a new job that I was excited about. It felt like a huge breakthrough for me -- the kind of opportunity I had been working toward for years. I went through multiple rounds of interviews, got the official offer, signed the paperwork and even started making plans to relocate. I told all of my friends and ...Read more

DEAR MISS MANNERS: How can I politely invite someone to my home but also indicate that they should not bring their friends or family with them?

We moved a couple years ago to a different city, and made new friends we really like. We also have neighbors a couple of houses away who will just come over to join any gathering without an invite.

I ...Read more

Dear Annie: I've been dating my boyfriend, "Dylan," for almost two years. He's perfect except for the fact that he avoids conflict like the plague. If I bring up anything even slightly uncomfortable -- like that something he said hurt my feelings -- he either shuts down, changes the subject or tries to make a joke out of it.

At first, I ...Read more

DEAR ABBY: I'm a 23-year-old college graduate who was lucky enough to land a job in my field of study. The job is located in my hometown. Because I couldn't afford my own apartment, I moved back in with my parents. The situation was supposed to be temporary, but now that I can afford to move out, my parents insist that I stay with them. They ...Read more